THE WOMAN OF MY FUTURE

Someday I will meet a woman and fall in love; but before falling in love, I must first make sure that she is following the Bible the way that God would want her to. If we strive for perfection, we cannot go wrong. This is the type of mentality that I want for my future spouse to have.

Disclaimer:  What I think of how a Christian woman should act is not just my opinion, it is God’s opinion, and it is stated in the Bible.

These are the qualities that I want my future wife to have:

Modesty: When I’m out in public with my wife, I don’t want another man lusting after her because she chose to wear a low cut shirt or tight pants. Form fitting clothing leaves almost nothing to the imagination. God wouldn’t want someone dressing like this. The Bible states that women also shouldn’t wear jewelry. A flashy necklace will draw men’s eyes to a woman’s neck and/or her chest area. 1 Timothy 2:9 says – “…Women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire.”

Submission: Someone needs to manage the household, and it wouldn’t matter to me which one does it, but God has it that the wife would submit to the husband. God has it that the man works and is in charge of the home, and that the wife is to raise the children and comfort the man. Call me sexist all you want, but God’s word is sound. Ephesians 5:22 says – “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” Also, 1 Corinthians 11:3 states – “…The head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

A pure mind: It is very crucial that we avoid watching films that are rated R or that have suggestive content in them. We need to avoid listening to music with cussing or sensual lyrics, and we must abstain from immoral company. (And this means refraining from people that don’t practice these things as well.) 1 Thessalonians 5:22 says – “Abstain from all appearance of evil.”  How can we keep a pure mind when we put garbage in it? What we put in will always come out.

Discipline: A Christian should stand out from a crowd; someone should be able to tell you are different just by looking at you. Our speech, our appearance, our diet, our communication, and our integrity, should be different from most people. Christians should eat healthy and exercise; this helps to build discipline, and we will be more effective in serving Christ when we do this because we will have more energy, we will feel better, and we will be more motivated. Our body represents God, and we need to preserve it. It says in 1 Corinthians 6:19 - “know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?”

Character: I want for my future friend/girlfriend/wife to have character; not just for my sake, but for hers too. We aren’t on this planet just to survive from day to day; we should be trying new things and having new experiences constantly. Challenges and hardships also build character. Most hardships for Christians come from being different, as Christians will be pulled apart from immoral family members, and they will stop doing the things that they did when they weren’t saved. We need to try to become all that we can be for Christ, and for ourselves.  Romans 5:3-4 says – “…We glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; and patience, experience; and experience, hope.”

So basically, I'm looking for a girlfriend/wife that dresses modestly, who cares about her health, reads the Bible often, has character, respects me, loves herself, loves God, and stays pure.

God bless,
Noah Brewster